LA Matchmakers Reveal 8 Signs You're Forcing a Relationship

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Are you feeling frustrated in your relationship? Are you worried it’s not as strong as you thought it was? If you’re feeling doubtful about your love, it’s time to get to the bottom of it and figure out where things are going wrong.

So let’s not waste another second. If these things are happening in your relationship, you might be the one putting in all the efforts. And let’s be honest, a relationship will never work if only one partner is putting in the efforts. Let our LA matchmakers show you the warning signs you’re forcing a relationship that will never work.

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1. You describe them as your partner, but they don’t do the same.

This one right here is self-explanatory. You know what we’re trying to say. You bring them up in conversation when you talk to mutual friends and talk about different things you do together as if you were a couple. But when they hang out with their friends, they never talk about you. Yikes!

2. You rationalize their bad behavior.

For example, they ghosted you a few times and you just chalked it up to them being in a bad mood. If you are rationalizing their bad behavior towards you, then you’re blind and aren’t seeing things clearly. It’s time to take the blinders off and realize they’re not on the same page as you.

3. You bend over backwards for them, but they don’t do the same.

You go out of your way to do nice things for them, but they never return the favor. If you’re the only one who puts in the efforts, then you’re forcing it along. Relationships are fundamentally give and take, and if one partner is doing too much giving while the other is just taking, then it’s never going to work.

4. You defend your relationship from everyone.

Friends and family are starting to notice negative patterns in your relationship. But you defend your fling like there’s no tomorrow. You tell everyone they’re amazing when they’re really not. If your friends and family are voicing their concerns, you need to listen to them.

5. You make up excuses why they never called.

If they’re micro-ghosting you, AKA leaving you unread while being active on their phone, then your relationship isn’t going anywhere. If they don’t have the decency to respond to you, it’s not because they fell asleep with their phone in their hands. It’s because they don’t care about you.

6. You drop plans with your friends to hang out with them.

If you drop plans with friends to hang out with them because they called you for some last-minute fun, then not only are you a bad friend, but you’re also desperate and forcing your relationship. The truth is they only see you as a hookup.

7. You tell yourself he’ll eventually want a relationship.

If you convince yourself that he’ll eventually come around, then we’re sorry to tell you that you’re going to end up heartbroken. You are just forcing a relationship that’s never going to work.  The truth is maybe they don’t want to be anything more than just a hookup buddy. And even though that’s a hard pill to swallow, the sooner you realize it, the easier it will be to move on.

8. You think you’re doing something wrong.

Newsflash! It’s not you, it’s them. If you’re genuinely trying to get to know them and they don’t put any efforts into the relationship, then they’re just leading you on. It’s up to you to wake up, open your eyes, put your foot down, and move on from this fairy-tale relationship you’ve created in your mind.

If you’re the only one putting in efforts and forcing this relationship along, wake up and realize that it will never work—plain and simple. If you’re single and want to meet someone who reciprocates your efforts, contact our LA matchmakers today and let us introduce you to that special someone. You deserve someone who feels the same way for you, someone who values and respects you.

To reserve your FREE (90-minute) matchmaking consultation, simply fill out the confidential form at the top of the page today!


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