LA Matchmakers Reveal Ways You Sabotage Your Relationship

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A brand new relationship is full of promises and potential. You may have messed up the last one, but you’re not going to repeat the same mistakes again this time around. Are you?

Unfortunately, many people end up sabotaging their relationships without realizing it. Those who have yet to have a relationship that last several months could be doing things that are hurting their relationships.

Today, our LA matchmakers here at Los Angeles Singles Dating Service are going to show you ways you sabotage your relationship without knowing it.

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1. You tell your boyfriend he needs to do something, or you will leave him.

It’s hard to think of something that is more dramatic than giving your boyfriend an ultimatum. It sounds exciting to think, “I’ll just say that if he doesn’t change something or ask me to marry him, or simply spend more quality time together, it’s over, I’m leaving you.” You picture him getting emotional and telling you that, of course, he wants to be with you forever and you think the problem is finally solved.

The problem is that no one likes to be on the receiving end of an ultimatum. When it comes to sabotaging your relationship, this is one of the worst ways to do it.

2. Canceling plans all the time.

You hate it when your bestie cancels dinner dates with you, but generally if she has a good reason, you’re okay with it. It’s a different story when you feel like you’re relationship is not doing okay and your boyfriend keeps canceling plans on you.

If either one of you keeps canceling plans to spend time together or saying that you’ll go with the other person to a friend’s party and then not go last minute, that’s going to hurt your relationship big time. Fixing things does take time, and it will mean keeping the plans you made.

3. Ignoring the problems in the relationship.

Talking about feelings and problems is awkward but key to a healthy relationship. It’s not fun. It’s something many people would rather avoid doing. The issue with that, of course, is that a relationship can’t work unless you discuss your feelings and problems.

If you want to keep your relationship going strong, you have to be able to talk about everything with your partner.

4. Wanting him to say it was his fault.

Does anyone feel like their relationship problems are all their fault and their partner is 100% perfect? That would be a definite no. It doesn’t feel good to be in this type of situation.

Wanting your boyfriend to say, “All the problems in the relationship are my fault, and I’ll change to become a better boyfriend” is understandable. It’s a daydream, though, and probably never going to happen. It takes two people to make a relationship work. Telling him that it’s all on him will most likely cause a fight and eventually the demise of your relationship together.

If you’re guilty of any of these four bad habits in your relationship, it’s time to accept fault and change your ways. Or lose your relationship altogether.

If you’re single and ready to meet relationship-minded singles in Los Angeles, contact our LA matchmakers today and let us help you find true love.

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